I like doing things that I do, I mean Juvente here. But I don't like doing them while feeling alone. I need to feel that there is a team behind and right now I don't feel it. Of course, it's up to me to build the team maybe, at least to start with it.. I guess I'm bad at it and I'm bad at delegating assignements, reaally bad. It's probably due to my opinion that people should WANT to do things and if I start delegating then I always somehow feel that I'm putting pressure on them, that they actually really don't want to do this and out of politeness maybe they accept doing it. But this for me feels like pity. Is it too much to ask that people would do things with joy? I mean I'd be ready to prepare seminars or whatever half the nights, be without sleep for several days etc if I would feel that I'm doing it TOGETHER with someone. I mean Juvente and Active have given me so much that I can't even put it into words.. friends, personal growth, courage...
We're having a seminar this weekend. 6 people plan to come at the moment.. Very interesting topics and well planned with me and Kristiina.. But 6 people all together (me and Kristiina included..). Of course, we 're not many, we're something like 25 in Juvente at the moment, maybe I should try to appreciate 6 people a better. Yes I think I should.
But I'm just sad, because I feel it's falling apart, I don't feel like having that strength anymore. C'mon I've been in Juvente board something like hmm... as far as I can remember. 5 years? More? Don't remember.. I feel that I should start stepping aside and let others do stuff, but who?
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I think everyone has that feeling from time to time, no matter how big the organization is. Hmm, this might not be the best comfort, but, maybe it helps you in not feeling alone in being all alone?
Eivind :)
I wonder whether someone should make a seminar for people who are tired or feels that things are not going in the right direction. And how to handle it. We`re kind of supposed to think that working with the things we do should be fun all the time, but it can truely be frustrating also sometimes. As Eivind says - it`s a feeling everyone has from time to time.
but i guess the good thing about for instance Active is that it shows that you 25 in Estonia is not alone in what you are doing.
And a seminar with 6 people can be a good weekend. Best to focus on those who are there, and not those who are not, anyway. Hope the weekend works out good!
Just some quick thoughts...
First of all you have to realize that you can't do everything by your self. Second it's not good for an organization that one person does everything.
You don't need to be bossy and commanding, but you need to involve the others. The key is to make them feel that they are involved and has ownership to the tasks they do. That will make them appreciate the organization better and most likely also increase their involvement and make them willing to take on more tasks and responsibility. Locally, nationally and perhaps even on a international level. Basically they will be more active members, and that is what any organization want. Active members will also gain more by their membership then passive members. And members made passive by leaders that want to do everything themselves won't be members for long.
In my experience, if someone is engaged and active in an organization they are also willing to take some responsibility. But if you do everything yourself they might feel that you don't trust them with tasks and you risk giving the impression that you think you are the organization. Delegating responsibility will also give the organization a chance to see what the various people are good at and then use that later. As you said, it will be a point where you will have to step down, and then it will be good for the organization to know what the various candidates are good at when they choose your replacement. That way you will also be able to transfer knowledge and experiences to the others in the organization.
You write that you feel that you are putting pressure on others if you delegate things. Being a good leader is one who delegate and make people want to do things. And as I wrote, those involved in an idealistic organization are also usually willing to do things and they will most likely appreciate it if you ask. They are members because they believe in the cause and want to change something. If they don't have time they can always say no, or they might be willing to do something else, something less time consuming.
Thanks guys for good thoughts!:)
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